This is a 2-Part Post
1. A Much Overdo Update
2. The United States "Fifty Shades of Grey" Obession
I know it's been a very very long time and for that I deeply apologize. The last few months have been for lack of a better word.... difficult. I realize that I have subscribers and very supportive friends through my blog and I have neglected all of you. Well I'm back, but I've changed just a bit.
I will most likely be doing a little redecorating on my site as I have done in my life. My Boyfriend and I are still together... that certainly has not changed.
Since February I have done a lot of soul searching; trying to figure out where I took the wrong turn in my life and through church, friends, family and my amazing supportive boyfriend (I'll call Him M from here on out) I realized I didn't exactly take a wrong turn I just really needed a wake up call that I was headed down a road I would not have been happy with....
Long-story short (read previous posts if your confused) here I am nearly 6 months later and I am returning home and, quite unfortunately also returning to a LDR. = ( However I find it a necessity to start over from scratch and start from the beginning again. We will make it work.
I have grown from this experience, but I am not upset to leave it behind. It's very difficult to make bills with a low paying job you never intended to have in the fist place and living on your own for the first time in a strange city.
M and I have let lose on all the D/s stuff just because I think we've been a bit distracted by everything going on and also because of my stress levels, but I'm sure it'll make a major come back. Now that I'm moving home I can relax a little which leads me to something strange happening in the USA that I just recently noticed......
FIFTY SHADES OF GREY
I've been involved in BDSM for 8 years now as a sub and now my I'm all excited/quizzical about the new phenomenon that is fifty shades of grey.
HOW IN THE HELL DID AN AVERAGE EROTICA MAKE IT MAINSTREAM?
My world has turned inside out and I'm very confused.
1. The author probably had a million friends in high places.
2. This series reads like every other erotica I own. It's nothing too special. ( Don't get me wrong I am enjoying the read and loving Christian just like everyone else...)
3. How did it go mainstream and make bestsellers lists?
4. Does this mean I can come out of the kink closet sometime in the future so to speak.
5. I helped an elderly women find it at barnes and noble today... I'll repeat and clarify... a group of elderly grandmother type women.
6. Everyone is now going to know the meaning of the term vanilla which kinda of takes away the fun for me trying to figure out if a person is infact into BDSM.
7. My friends and god-sisters (ages 23, 18) are posting pictures of them reading is on facebook and their on the third book....this is becoming a little awkward now they know what I do.
8. I hope to God my little sister doesn't read it nor my Dad because he may be reminded of a note he found when I was 15 and I really don't want to go there again.
9. Are people saying that my relationship is okay now? Or is everyone still in denial and only looking at this book as a taboo fun fantasy read?
2. This series reads like every other erotica I own. It's nothing too special. ( Don't get me wrong I am enjoying the read and loving Christian just like everyone else...)
3. How did it go mainstream and make bestsellers lists?
4. Does this mean I can come out of the kink closet sometime in the future so to speak.
5. I helped an elderly women find it at barnes and noble today... I'll repeat and clarify... a group of elderly grandmother type women.
6. Everyone is now going to know the meaning of the term vanilla which kinda of takes away the fun for me trying to figure out if a person is infact into BDSM.
7. My friends and god-sisters (ages 23, 18) are posting pictures of them reading is on facebook and their on the third book....this is becoming a little awkward now they know what I do.
8. I hope to God my little sister doesn't read it nor my Dad because he may be reminded of a note he found when I was 15 and I really don't want to go there again.
9. Are people saying that my relationship is okay now? Or is everyone still in denial and only looking at this book as a taboo fun fantasy read?
So many thoughts running through my head. This used to be an underground life-style, but now... the book is being discussed on TV, in newspapers on the radio.... and now everyone is aware that this world of Dominants and their submissives exists.
So many Adult stores are reporting increased sales of 99% ... I liked the paranormal before that was a fad and got made fun for it and I was into BDSM before this book came out hiding my lifestyle from so many... is this the next fad? the next few years of culture are going to be very entertaining thanks to this book and major figures such as Rhianna and her S&M song.
I never in a million years expected this.
~ Ellie <3
P.S. It's good to be back : )
Personally, I don't think 50 Shades of Gray has made *real* kink any more mainstream...I haven't read the books, myself--I tried to, but *hated* the writing--but from all I've heard, it seems to promote a lot of misconceptions about the community. It's a vanilla person trying to write like they're kinky, so, obviously, there's gonna be a lot that's not true...
ReplyDeleteAs a side note, my sister--who's a year younger than I am--read it and told me it sounded like something I'd like, and it gave me a bit of an opening to discuss kink with her--though I haven't had the balls to say "I'm kinky!".
However, when she asked for ideas for other erotica, and I threw out better titles like Story of O, or The Marketplace, she said, "nooo, I'm not into that *kink* stuff..." I think it's popular because it's the 'edgy' thing right now...in a few months, all the vanillas will return to their vanilla erotica and I think this will all fade out...
I think that makes a lot of sense. I guess I'm thinking too much into it as usual. I am reading the book though... like I said it's really nothing special and the guy doesn't want a close relationship which is probably part of the unreality of it, but the definitions and disscussions of D/s, vanilla and that sort of stuff is pretty spot on. Christian also makes her sign this legitimate contract very similar to those I've seen around online in underground forums.
ReplyDeleteI think your right though... that is is a fad that will pass in and out very quickly; however it may open the eyes of some natural submissive and dominants out that and our number may increase.
Thanks for the comment as always = )
<3~Ellie~<3
Hi Ellie, your not the only one who took awhile off from blogging. I've been away since December :( Lot of changes but everything is for the good. Glad to see you're doing well :)
ReplyDeleteI haven't read 50 Shades and don't know if I will. You"ll have to let us know what you think when you finish.
Anyway, glad to see ya back....Kara XOXO